Sometimes it isn’t love, it’s unhealed karma..

Today I had a client who had been blocked in her business and money flow for a while. She mentioned that she had an on-and-off relationship with a man she considered to be her twin flame. While exploring the root cause of her money & business block, we found that this ‘twin flame’ partner was part of the block.

Whenever they were back together, her money flow started disappearing and her business went downhillWhen we dug even deeper, she discovered that she was playing out a childhood trauma with him that she had pushed away so far, she forgot about it.

The session also showed that he represented the feeling of unsafety & instability she had felt during that particular trauma. She had become so intertwined with the trauma, it was the reason why she had so much trouble letting go of that relationship that wasn’t serving her in any way.

Sometimes we grow so familiar with the pain of trauma that it becomes a companion; it becomes something we don’t want to separate from.Even if it’s harming us.

In those cases letting go can feel like a loss of ourselves and our identity.

That had become the case for her and our session started the journey of truly letting go on a deeper level.

*No details of client’s story will ever be shared without permission.

When you don’t feel like you’re making progress at all..

Sometimes life seemingly takes you a few step backwards. And you find yourself in a very old situation, one that you thought you had outgrown and overcome already. This can bring up frustration and you might wonder what you did wrong. You might even feel like all you have built over the years crumbled and you are back at square one. 

But if you really pay close attention to the circumstances, are they really the same? And even more important, are you the same old person within those circumstances?  Do you respond to your circumstances the way you would have a few years ago? 

Sometimes certain constructs we build break down, not because we have failed in some way but because these constructs had been built on faulty foundations and they need an overhaul.The fuel that once propelled you forward could have come from fear, shame or some other form of misalignment.  When now you’re ready to be moved by love, acceptance and inspiration. 

This overhaul can feel like you are taking steps backwards.It’s important to remind yourself that rebuilding on a healthy foundation is actually progress, even if it might not always feel like it. The truth is you have changed so much that a faulty foundation will no longer do and you are only willing to invest in things that benefit you in the long term.

And that’s a HUGE jump from where you once started!

Maybe you don’t trust yourself anymore..

Mislead - 

Not led right. 

Being led to something you didn’t want. 

Having guidance that missed the mark 

Feeling misled is a part of betrayal trauma that doesn’t get as much airtime. 

When we carry this wound, it doesn’t just break down trust towards the person who we felt misled by. The break down happens internally as well, towards ourselves, our intuition, God, or any other form of higher guidance we trusted. 

There’s the hidden belief that if our inner workings brought us to this (hurtful) person, how could we ever trust that same guidance system again? How do we ensure that same mistake doesn’t happen again? 

What guarantees do we have for that? 

When we don’t heal that, this relationship with our internal guidance system slowly erodes with every choice we make that leads to an outcome we didn’t desire—an outcome that feels like we were led in the wrong direction—mislead. 

When you operate from a guidance system you no longer trust, things become really confusing. You no longer know what cues to go off? which can lead one to get caught in this endless loop of feeling insecure and unsafe in relationships.  

What often happens is that because your guidance system isn’t sure how to recognise when something is off, it starts flagging off everything as a potential danger/red flag in an attempt to protect you. Even when this isn’t the case.

Essentially it’s now working in overdrive.All it did was swing from underprotective and too loosely guiding to overprotective and fearfully guiding. 

Unfortunately, this overprotection results in the same outcome—being misled. - poorly led - wrongly led - falsely guided into a certain unfavorable direction.