Maybe you don’t trust yourself anymore..

Mislead - 

Not led right. 

Being led to something you didn’t want. 

Having guidance that missed the mark 

Feeling misled is a part of betrayal trauma that doesn’t get as much airtime. 

When we carry this wound, it doesn’t just break down trust towards the person who we felt misled by. The break down happens internally as well, towards ourselves, our intuition, God, or any other form of higher guidance we trusted. 

There’s the hidden belief that if our inner workings brought us to this (hurtful) person, how could we ever trust that same guidance system again? How do we ensure that same mistake doesn’t happen again? 

What guarantees do we have for that? 

When we don’t heal that, this relationship with our internal guidance system slowly erodes with every choice we make that leads to an outcome we didn’t desire—an outcome that feels like we were led in the wrong direction—mislead. 

When you operate from a guidance system you no longer trust, things become really confusing. You no longer know what cues to go off? which can lead one to get caught in this endless loop of feeling insecure and unsafe in relationships.  

What often happens is that because your guidance system isn’t sure how to recognise when something is off, it starts flagging off everything as a potential danger/red flag in an attempt to protect you. Even when this isn’t the case.

Essentially it’s now working in overdrive.All it did was swing from underprotective and too loosely guiding to overprotective and fearfully guiding. 

Unfortunately, this overprotection results in the same outcome—being misled. - poorly led - wrongly led - falsely guided into a certain unfavorable direction.